My son who is 25 was dx with sz when he 19. He has basically lived with me up until about 18 mos. ago. He would stay with his dad 4 nights per wk and at my house 3 nights per wk; sometimes longer. He started to become paranoid of me around xmas and decided he know longer wanted to stay at my house. I see him once every 2 wks to give him a shot of risperadol.
The problem with him staying with his dad continuously is that he doesn't get any kind of mental stimulation. His dad doesn't have any conversations with him. He eats only fast food and the only time he goes out is when his dad drives him to a bar and picks him up several hrs. later(grrrrr! that's a whole other issue).
Well, today I was speaking with my son on the phone and as usual trying to persuade him to come to my house for a few days. His brother is now home from college and living with me, I have plently of jobs arround the house he can help me with, and we always speak to one another.
Today he turned on me big time. He said very angrily"what have you ever done for me?"I was speechless. Then he said "I don't care if I ever see you again". My heart just sank. He has always been very sweet and caring towards me. I just told him ok and that I loved him and he hung up.
I have no idea how to handle this. I have no idea why he turned on me at this time(true, we argue about his drinking and I won't enable him by driving him to a bar, but that's nothing new).
Earlier this wk I wanted to try a gluten free diet with him and have him stay here for just a few wks to try the diet and that was an absolute "no way".
I know he has been paranoid of me the last 3 months but never hostile.
What can/should I do?