Oh, what a crowded "boat" this could be...because
I don't think that there is a typical.......abuser
Your abuser simply knows YOUR areas of weakness and exploits them....for us...the turning point was open counseling..where I could express how hurt I was and how abused I felt.....(and do it freely)...my partner was truly stunned and though we're not Ward and June...we definitely have a better grip on our behavioural patterns towards each other....good luck and lots of love....grace