No, Sapphire, I don't think they will be that harsh, but they may fail to appreciate just how tough your problem can get. "Persistent maladaptive traits," which often go into making up personality types of persons who find life extra difficult and troubling, are very resistant to being changed. Also, unless they are antisocial, they may get encouraged.

If you were not a behavior problem at home or in school, then adults might have thought that you being shy was just fine. Teachers told my mother that I was the best little child in the class. So I would be happy to hear that, and I would try to behave more perfectly and do my assignments more perfectly. I became one up-tight little kid. Also, it took forever to get things done because I had to fuss eternally over every detail.

By 7th grade, I did start thinking that my approach to life was in need of change. But, boy, is that ever hard to do. I'm still working on it. Counselors seemed to sometimes underestimate the problem, if the behavior was kind of in a positive direction (trying to write the greatest term paper in the history of schools). I was told that it was wonderful to have high standards and that I would probably achieve great things. Down the line - and it might take awhile to get there - I might voice non-acceptance of something the Counselor was telling me, and then I would be told that I was I was impossible to work with. (Always keep in mind that doctors, therapists, and counselors have egos, just as we all do. They like to feel they are doing a good job. I try to always thank people for helping me, even when I don't believe I've been helped. My former approach was getting me nowhere.)

What may be a very, very good thing that you have going for you is this: You are trying to recognize your behavioral/thinking tendencies, and you are evaluating the impact those tendencies are having on how your life is going. You are already seeing some things you may want to change. That is powerful, especially because you are still young. I hope your appointment goes well. Most of the work of dealing with the problem will be on you, but get any help available.