Gosh I hope I am always kind to you and everyone I post to...though I do not always see all the threads...so never think I am ignoring a plea..then we have areas I will not go ...like caregivers and grief and loss..I don't go there

I was making a sandwich and thinking more on what you first said and it hit me..just like the victims at the Concentration camps..abuse happens and its not FOR a reason ..its because someone..aka the abuser is flawed very flawed,,I can think of a few x-rated words..and one cannot ever fix it,..what they did, but one can move past it and make sure it never happens again at least near them and help all they can...I guess its less of a reason FOR it and more of a good *in spite of it* ...Thats my butterfly brain fluttering around over a ham sandwich