Hi there,
You sound like me in college. I had acne, braces, and was extremely shy around people. I have a mild physical deformity which was the source of my self-loathing. I *was* made fun of as a child which did contribute to the problem. Here are some suggestions:
* Find spiritual support. You may not be a "true believer" but if you can attend some kind of regular services your social confidence will grow. People will accept you without criticism of your appearance.
*. Learn cognitive techniques to change your thinking and behavior. When I dwelled on my differentness so did others. When I showed no fear they showed none either. You will have to bare all your physical flaws to free your mind of these fears. Learn to do that and your confidence will grow.
* Try some minor things like St Johns Wort to take the edge off. It will help to see that there is another you hiding inside that can't wait to explore the world.
*. Read some books like Think and Grow Rich or Learned Optimism and embrace techniques like Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life suggests.
*. Don't isolate. Join campus groups and make yourself go. You will find friends which will greatly alleviate much of your suffering.
You are just starting adult life and have great opportunities to iaddress these things now and brighten your future. Go for it!
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