Hello, I read your post and hope that things are better for you .I am on the other end ,I have 3 kids ages 20,18,and 10.they say very little to my b/f of 3 yrs.... I had a long talk with my kids and found out that its NOT that they don' t like my b/f they just don't know what to say to him, the ages of the boys have alot to do with it also..they are in worlds of thier own ..as for picking up after them..I wouldnt do it.....I would start a hobby or do something to get me out of the house..If your not there to pick up after them ,maybe they will see how bad they really are..they know you will do it and that is why they leave things and dont pick up after themselves..my kids did the same thing to me But now, I get out alittle more and they have to clean for themselves they are getting to the point where they cant stand for the house to get dirty because thier friends come over and they dont want them to see the house a mess ...Bee smiles,,,I hope that you find happiness ..I will keeps you in my prayers...take care.. I wish you all the luck and hope that you keep in touch with us