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Originally Posted by peaches100
Withorwithout you,
You said that talking to your t about the intense attachment helped you settle down about it. I think that's where I'm having trouble. My t and I aren't talking about it. I'm telling her (in emails) how if feel about her, but she's avoiding those parts of my messages. So it leaves me feeling weird about it. . .like maybe she doesn't want me to feel attached??? I feel a little bit better since my t's last reply, but I'm still concerned about the way she tends to minimize (or what feels like minimizing) the attachment and separation thing i struggle with. It makes me feel a little bit blown off, and more vulnerable than i like to feel. So I'm hoping my t will talk to me about this a little bit when i see her tomorrow.
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Hmm, I see where you're coming from. I think the only way to deal with it is to bring it up tomorrow when you see her, right away at the beginning, since she won't address it in your e-mails. I told mine in a letter, but it wasn't addressed to her (I referred to her in the 3rd person) because at the end of the day, I really knew this was about me and not her. We talked about it the next session (over the phone) and she talked to me for double the time, I guess she thought it was too important to cut off at 50 minutes.
I hope for your sake she does not continue to avoid this. However, I would give her the benefit of the doubt until tomorrow. I wonder if she is not acknowledging this on purpose because it's too important to try and discuss in writing. Just a thought. Good luck! I still have to wait 9 more days
