Why is it that now that we have decided to split up that all of the sudden my husband and I are actually able to be civil to one another? I don't know maybe it's because the pressure is off our relationship now...It just makes it harder, that and the lonliness factor...even when we have this half-relationship I at least had someone to hug if I felt the need...Is this "normal"? I mean I really do know that we are over, know that we both deserve more than we will be able to get out of our relationship because we just don't have anything in common and that's the root of the problem...we just don't have any kind of emotional intimacy because we can't relate to what makes the other tick...it doesn't matter if he says "Yeah I'll do that with you because you enjoy it because I don't want him to do because I enjoy it I want him to share it with me because it is something we both enjoy...I need a connection like that and we both deserve a kindred spirit of sorts is basically what I'm saying and we will never be that to one another...I'm never going to enjoy paintball or drinking beer or football and he's never going to enjoy a good book or a day at the beach or dancing. And it's not just a few things that one enjoys and the other doesn't that we could maybe do with other friends...it's everything...I'm like at A and he's like at Z ALL THE TIME. And after all when the house is clean, the bills are paid and the sex is over you've got to have something else that you SHARE and I think I've just tried to content myself with all of those other things and I'm just never going to be content without that kind of emotional intimacy. Its just sad though...when it comes down to it neither of us HATES one another we love each other, how can we not since we've been together for 7 years...but we are not in IN LOVE...we're just TOO DIFFERENT...sometimes love is just not enough...I feel so selfish for feeling this way but I've tried to content myself with things the way they are and I just can't, I felt like was still searching for something and I've realized now with this other friend that THAT is what is was. I can share with my friend my opinion of a book that we've both read, a movie that we both enjoy, even our hopes and fears are similarly aligned...And that is something that is beyond me and my husbands other personal issues...it's like laying a house without a foundation AND with some shoddy workmanship..when it crumbles which do you blame...little of both I guess but the house never have been what the best houses should be anyway if it had no foundation and the best workmanship....Oy Vay...now that I've degenerated into metaphors...