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Hi, I read this and thought well yeah, a ton of people have this same thing. The I read the replies and noone seemed to really "know" what you were saying. Which both surprised and scared me because I "know" exactly what you are saying. But unfortuantely do not have thoughts as to why it is this way or what to do about it. Maybe just knowing I know what you are saying is something.

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<font color="purple">Yes it does help, thank you. I did have a private responder that understood completely. I am saddened and comforted at the same time that someone relates to what I am saying. But thru this I also was able to allow myself to think long and hard last night. And while snuggling with my husband I recognized something: Making love for me is kissing, holding hands, snuggling (w/o expectation of sex), its all a mental conncetion for me.... And sex, is just a physical pleasurable activity. So I figured out that I just think differently and that is ok, I feel good about knowing that . I am no longer going to force a concept upon myself just because it doesnt fit with the "norm" anymore. In this I also answered another question of mine about love. I do know what it is and what it feels like and that is a huge break through for me. It may be in a different context but I believe the outcome is the same feeling and I am going to celebrate that!!

>>>> I do want to thank all that have responded, it opened thought provoking insight within myself, if that made sense? LOL.

Melinda</font>