You know, Kimmy, I truly think that this isn't one of those conflicts w/a neat resolution.....my mother is my mother..(for what it's worth)...but I am determined to set my boundaries and keep them that way.....
I actually feel sorry for her in so many ways...she let her own unpleasant experiences from childhood "congeal" into a personality of anger, insecurity and neediness.....she truly feels that the world "owes" her something....so.....she attempts to take that "something" out of those she's suppose to love....I won't be that vessel anymore, no matter what her decision ends up being.....thanks everyone for your input...it really helps. grace