That you taped without consent makes you just as "wrong". . . if that is what you are evaluating. Since you have difficulty finding a therapist ethical enough for you as it is, I wouldn't make a legal issue of this. If you can, move on to a T you can trust, and dispense with your need to accuse and complain. I don't think that is in your best interest... it won't help your current relationship with this T, and as you shared, it won't help you find a new T who isn't very leery of your intentions.

IMO there are deeper issues rather than the taping.. since you also did this. If you can, work through it with your T and find out why... if the T won't, then you have no choice but to find someone who will help you get to the bottom of how you feel about therapy and therapists. Trust is a needed element for healing.

Not all therapists are licensed. Just because someone has a PhD doesn't mean they are being watched over by a licensing board. It sounds as though this T might be a licensed psychologist, because of the APA reference made, but might not be.

I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. Some of your issues are from your disorder... and that's a tough row to hoe.