Wow, I've felt like that before. I've had a lot of experience since then and still work on this.

I think one tool to help her is something called "Cognitive Behavioral Therapy" or CBT.

There are many negative distortions that we tell ourselves so much, that we actually begin to believe them, then we come to expect them and then sometimes, they actually happen because our subconcious mind heads in that direction.

However, I am including a link for you called "Taming the Monsters". These "monsters" are referred to in this article as "automatic negaive thoughts or ANTS.

It's a simple list of how we distort our negative thoughts into beliefs and how we can undo them with work. The link I am providing is not just a list you look over once and say to yourself "okay, I read it, I'll do it". It's something you have to read and reread and read again to train our thoughts back into reality and into a more positive frame of mind.

I have this list on my calendar and my purse and I refer to it often, especially if I am feeling negative.

So here is the link... please let me know if it helps... it will work for both of you, not just her...

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/ar...ruin-life.html

Please let me know if this helps.