He has tried he is just sick of it he works almost 20 hours aday between his business and the kids I really am not exagerating. He is a work aholic hates excuses and people using illnesses as a crutch as he does have a lot of physical problems and does not let them slow him down, I don't seem to be able to accomplish this. We don't talk much anymore I have "programed" him so that he won't talk to me cause he never knows what will set me off. I have been trying to annalize exactly what my problems are so I can succeed in counseling the first block will be follow through as I suck at that badly.