To start with, his lack of commitment came with out being willing to be married to you & just being a partner.....giving him the freedom to come & go as he pleased. So many people think that a piece of paper doesn't mean anything.....but when you get children involved & no divorce settlement to insure child support. Sometimes the choices we make that seem so innocent at the time have a great impact in the long run.

I honestly wouldn't have been able to give the way you did to him without a formal commitment on his part.....women are known for giving their hearts.....but not as often do we hear of men in the same position. It seems like he was definitely taking you for granted from the beginning & you were not processing the input that in reality existed in the relationship from the beginning.

I honestly think that you would be better off without this guy especially after getting his ex pregnant.....just shows how much he doesn't respect you or the relationship you were in with him....one sided relationships just don't work. If he really means what he says about it being a mistake & wanting to be with you, then he should be willing to get married & make the relationship into a responsible one on his part.....so that you can hold him to the responsibility of caring for the child that he was a part of bringing into this world.

Hope you can sort through all of this & bring in your logical mind along with your emotions.....to figure out the best of all possibilities for your child of top of everything else.