Holy crap you are none of the things you are calling yourself and hubby obviously doesnt care about this as much as you do ...youre beating youself up for BEING HUMAN ...Men they say have that attitude and all but I am sure he musta known a woman could get wrapped up in it...he isnt upset so you have zero to be guilty on..It may not be a good thing for you two to do now on cause this happened and COULD happen again with anyone else either sex so I think you need to RE TELL hubby you how you feel and how you are still attached to this dude and maybe ask what to do ...what are we going to do about this..I mean you all went out....so he wasnt upset KNOWING how you feel on this dude...stop kicking your own ***