<font color="purple">I keep coming back to this thread and writing a post but dont send.... But I feel I must as I can relate all too well with the exception of a few details: my husband didnt know until after the fact, he blames the OM (other man) and my mental illness, I do not, I blame myself and take full responsibilty... I have been struggling with tremendous guilt and its been 6 yrs. Daily I live with the torment of what I did and how I felt/feel. I thought I had forgiven myself but I believe I haven't. Whether i regret it or not is not an easy one to answer as it is a yes and no...

I have cut off all ties to this man yrs ago and still I struggle, so I am not sure what the best advice to give would be.... except continue communication with yourself and you r husband with all honesty... Good luck ((((((Hugs))))))) </font>