that's sweet of you. thanks!
you know, I figured out on my own that it wasn't the hug that was the issue; it was the unreasonable, inflexible rule that had been dropped on me with no appeal. That triggered me (powerlessness) and I understood why I had gotten so upset about it.

Funny, when I told T I had worked all this out, I really expected her to give me a lot of praise for having traced it back to its real cause - but she didn't, and have to admit I was disappointed. I guess I want her approval more than I thought.