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That's so cool, nannypat! I never thought it would be possible for me, either, and I used to get SO angry at my T for withholding something I thought I desperately needed from him. But amazingly I actually DID learn how to feel deeply cared for through his words, and that taught me I don't need to rely on only one way to feel close to someone. I've learned so much more about myself and about my behavior in relationships by NOT getting the things that I felt most desperae for in our relationship, and by talking about the desperation and the intense feelings instead.
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