That was very good for you to logically take your thoughts back to the source of the problem.....feeling powerless over arbitrary decisions that don't allow for any input or appeal. Very good job.

It is also good that you (and others) were able to express the dislike of the decision because without expressing the feelings then it never would have been brought up again with Admin.

It's the same with many things that happen in our life.....a change or something happens that effects us very negatively......we mindfully think through what our feelings are & express them along with trying to figure out if there is anything we can do to change. When we have done everything possible.....we end up HAVING to accept what it is as becoming the new reality but accepting it as being what is doesn't me that we accept it as being good or right....it's just accepting that what is, is. Accepting it doesn't mean that we aren't keeping our mind thinking of possibly ways of fixing the problem we perceive & aren't keeping out mind open to new information that we can use to change the change, or keep in our mind that we hope some day that they will figure out that the change really IS a problem (like they decided in your case). Accepting what is is just being able to live with whatever has happened until we are able to take any other positive action to correct it & if nothing comes up to help make it change, we continue to accept it as our new reality. We don't fight it, but it doesn't mean that we don't stop looking for information to fix the problem.....which the group of T's were able to successfully do. Everyone had to accept that new reality of the NO HUGS until they were able to continue to deal with showing that it was a problem. Acceptance doesn't mean giving up hope that something will come up to make the necessary change, but being willing to accept what is is what you have to deal with until that change may possibly happen.

I think most of the time we are forced into radical acceptance of things & are forced to live with what the things is that we are having to accept. Denying it doesn't change it & it doesn't mean that we don't stop looking for the things that can help change it, but we accept if for what it is while there is nothing we can do to make the changes.

I am so glad that all of the T's stepped forward & spoke up & that they didn't just silently accept without being willing to take steps to try to correct the problem.....good job on all the T's in your group & good job for you SAWE for being able to tolerate & accept while you had to the situation even while you knew it wasn't good.