thank u so very very much (((((complic8td))))) i will do my best to find this book and read it as soon as i can and you are right this site has become a place i feel safe to be who "we" are without prejudice and judments. knowing that others here understand to a certain degree (because we are different and thats ok) what i "we" are dealing with has made it easier for me to see im not a bad parent because i am different than normal parents raising children without having others living inside their bodies. you have no idea what your support and the support of others has done for this bama gurl. thank u again for posting and for the book info it is greatly appreciated