(((((allme)))) I am so sorry you are put in this position with your brother. I can just imaging how many triggers are being set off for you.

As hard as it is to not carry him the truth is you are not doing him any kindness. If you take care of him (enable him) he will never get it together or find the help he needs to get his life back on track. As true as that may be it doesn't make it easier to set the boundaries you both need.

Are there any community service agencies that you could turn to for help? You can't do this alone especially with everything else you are dealing with. He is robbing you of your power and that seems to be pushing you into a corner and looking to places you know aren't healthy to escape the pressure you are under.

I hope things can be resolved soon and your brother gets the professional help he needs. Setting time limits for him to stop avoiding life and hiding from his problems may be the best thing you can do for him.

Sweet blessing dear allme.