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Originally Posted by freshpearl
Oh dear. 
I feel bad for you that you had such a dysfunctional start into romance with F. That was unfair for him to do that to you.
But I feel worse for M. You're looking for something that does not exist in a long-term relationship. You're looking for those sparks that only happen at the very beginning. The poor guy could work his whole life to make you happy this way and never succeed. You need to find a way to be happy with the every day "comfortable" parts of a long-term, committed relationship. If you can't, then you need to be fair to him and end it. Then go find your fireworks with multiple new people until you get bored of it and realize you finally long for a committed relationship. |
Thank you for the advice, actually I did break up with him yesterday. I told him I felt there was something missing... it was not only the sparks ... it was the fact we never really talked anymore, the fact I was starting to fall out of love with him and it wasn't fair for him if we continued this relationship because I might always feel this gap when I'm with him.
I felt awfull... he cried, I cried...
I just hope we can get through this..
I can't stop crying because I lost and hurt him but at the same time I'm kinda relieved I did the right thing and now I can find myself again and maybe one day he'll find someone who's ready to be comfortable and it's not so romantic and "delusional" as me... and maybe I'll find someone who will treat me better in the attention department...as i told my mother yesteday "someone who's great as M with a bit of the sane part of F", someone who'd run in front of a bus to save me instead of someone who didn't even fight to keep me and took me for granted..
I know I must sound a bit bitter.
I love M but I'm someone who need constant romance and small things from the other person and he's someone who takes people for granted and only sporadically did he remember I needed him to give me as much as I did him...
I just hope the pain will numb in the next months.
Thank you for your advice =)
