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Originally Posted by wolfsong
R Summers....it sounds to me as if you DID try....I am unaware your age...or how long you were together....my views are different than most others ...in that...I feel people come into our lives...serve an evolutionary purpose to our souls...bad or good...and some of these people are soul-mates...the bond doesn't diminish...others have their place in our lives...and despite a true,mad,deep love...are meant to be ...'for a time'..ie.,a co-worker,bf,gf,random friend etc.....I think your feelings for him were genuine....(((((Huggsss))))
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Hi Wolfsong,
I'm 21 and he's 29, we were together for over a year but we know each other over 15 years because he's my brother best friend...
I think you're right.. he did serve a purpose, he saved me from the fears I had in this area of my life. He was the stable man I needed to discover myself as a "girlfriend".
And I do love him but it was started to feel like I was trapped in an ok relationship.
I told him time after time that I needed him to try and understand my need for romance and to feel like I'm a priority instead of being the one he went to if his friends weren't free...
He treated me okey I guess... but not quite what I needed.
Still, I thought it would hurt less than it is hurting, 'cause I did it when I could take anymore of the ok treatment.
But I can understand why it hurts and will hurt for a while... after all he was my first boyfriend, the one I got to experience new things (even if we never "did" it) and the first one I trusted with my feelings and to hold my hand through the lows of my depression...
So it feels like losing my bestfriend also...
Thank you for your advice =)
