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Originally Posted by googley
((((((((((Tree)))))))))
My guess is that your husband thought you were talking about him and so thought you didn't want to curl up with him. A totally misscommunication of what was actually happening. But he took your comment personally and so was not able to listen when you apologized. That is not your fault.
Remember before when you felt so alone and then your friend reached out and emailed you out of the blue? It will get better. It will be okay. You can get through this. Be gentle with yourself. Try to remember the good times when it feels like everything is overwhelming.   |
Tree, I can so relate to being sooo anxious about having people angry at me it totally unravels me.I am a people pleaser. Both things I am trying to work on in therapy and have ruled my life. I feel like it is woven into the fabric of my being.
I don't think in anyway you can't do relationships. I think, for the first time in a while you are trying to do it on your own again.When kids first start to walk on their own they take a couple of steps at a time then sit. They don't run across the room all at once without holding on. If you need to "hold on" a little longer, that's fine. If not, you try again. You get to decide what's best for you.
This is the first time I have heard you mention the financial part concerning T. Are those concerns influencing your decisions on taking this break?
I agree with everybody else that everybody has up and down days and moods and this may have been one of those for your H and nothing more than that. It is different when you can't just say to yourself "I will talk to T about it next session. Sending you lots of hugs.