thank you everyone. it's been a busy week, but i have been thinking a lot about what you have all said, and i really appreciate it. i will get back to you with more thoughts when i have a moment, but i'm at work right now.

just one little update. by the middle of the week, i had learned that my partner was not taking her anti-depressant meds anymore because she ran out and thought that she couldn't get any more because her pharmacy hasn't been helpful to her in the last few times she's dealt with them (her words are, "they want me to die, so they aren't going to give me my meds") but i was able to call in and i ran and got her meds. though i did find out that there are more issues, because the pharmacy and her psychiatrist are clearly not communicating well. there are issues with my partner's meds because they changed something without telling her, and they said it was the doctor that switched it. anyway... still more to figure out, but by the time she was able to tell me that she wasn't taking them because she didn't have anymore, things were not going well emotionally (hopefully we can work on communicating sooner to avoid days without meds!) it wasn't that hard for me, it just took a phone call, but she clearly wasn't able to handle that. at least i finally figured out what i could do to help.

*sigh* i'm going to my second meeting tonight to talk with other partners of people with mental illness. i'm excited to be able to talk to people irl who understand me as well.

thanks again for all the support and the advice. i'd like to spend time this weekend to reply to you all, so stay tuned.