I have allowed myself to feel the negative feelings towards my T. I understand the concept of transference and I knew that my feelings were probably that. And I knew that it's possible to work out some of my issues through my negative feelings toward T. So, I've been able to 'lash out' at her knowing that she understood and could help me process it. It worked perfectly for me and it feels good to be able to be totally honest with her. Scary, yes but liberating also. It helps to trust T completely.