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Originally Posted by onlymedid
I went to T yesterday and asked her if I could see her twice a week for the next two weeks as I am about to go on a vacation and during that vacation I will be seeing one of my abusers and I am really anxious about it. She said she was hesitating about it because she wants me to start to use what I have learned and apply it out in the world on my own. She is there to support me, but doesn't want me to just rely on her.
*sigh* well, I feel like I "need" her.
She told me that she knows I can do this on my own and has faith in me, but I need to have faith in myself.
She said she wouldn't be surprised if I needed to see her twice in one week when I came back, so we are planning on that.
Has anyone else ever had T tell them that they need to work on their own like this? What did you do? How did you cope?
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Hey,
I have had similar things said or happen to me. My T has no responded to my contact before like an email or text because she said she lt it would be better for me to try and hold the feeling of not being responded too and survive it ..or something to that effect.
I do think it can feel quite rejecting though when they do things like this. In their mind they are trying to stop us feeling so dependant on them but for us it feels lke they are just saying - "no i wont be there for you, do it yourself"
perhaps the extra sessions afterwards will be o more use so you can have more time to talk over how it was for you whenyou seen this person, as apposed to the fear you have beforehand?? If that makes sense?
I hope your ok, I can understand you may feel hurt
xxxx
