Thanks for the feedback!

I take your point on privacy and not wanting to do it when they're in the house at the time. That isn't really an issue because my family are often away (and i would feel very weird with her in the other room ). I guess my guilt and confusion was more about whether it's ok to happen at all in the family home. Or is that disrespectful in itself?

Lynn, i'm a bit confused by what you mean here. could you elaborate?

thanks