It is really hard to have to be in charge, in therapy. I've spent plenty of hours annoyed about that myself! In time I think you will begin to value the fact that this is the one place in the world where YOU are in total control. It takes a while to get used to, though.

One thing that has helped me is sometimes telling my T what I want him to do, instead of thinking it or alluding to it. For example, I'll say, "I need you to ask me if I did my homework." He asks me just that--no more--so if I want him to push, I have to say it: "I need you to ask me why I didn't do it."

It's definitely a different way of doing things--that's why it hurts and is hard. It's growth, and it's not easy.