Because of my aspergers I don't automatically "get" boundaries that most people o without being told. Then on top of that I don't generalize boundaries from one person to the next. SO... I try and have the "where are the boundaries?" conversation with every new person I meet and like... Then they look at me strange for not just knowing them... AND just for the record... Most people who do "naturally" understand boundaries can't articulate where they are, what they are, or why they are... They just mutter that there is a boundary there and you should have known about it!
"normals" should come with user guides and a 24hr help line... with operators in the SAME country... Well... when it comes to boundaries they might even have to be in the same city! They are so frinkin' cultural/situational.