honestly for me boundaries seem to be black and white.my personal boundaries are all or nothing .like the people i care about,my husband best friend,and yes even family i seem to have no boundaries.but on the other hand with people in general i have nothing but boundaries and i stay away and avoid so that the huge boundaries are never crossed.why i dint know it is just better this way.as far as others boundaries i live in fear of crossing them all the time.i try hard not to because it only can come to lots of hurt and pain.hard to do because you never know until one is crossed .so most of the time i go with the theory of first do nothing and then it is safe.