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Originally Posted by PTSDlovemycats
Does anyone else have problems with boundaries? I do. T said that I wasn't shown any growing up so it is hard for me to respect other people's boundaries and also to create any of my own. Just wondering if anyone else is struggling with this as well...
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hey hun,
yep I totally struggle with this and my T said almost the same thing to me also!
I have realised that by crossing boundaries (even if you dont realise) or being dependant or attached that you get hurt so I am very conscious now of crossing boundaries in any sense whether that includes things such as :
-any contact outside sessions
-asking anything at all that may be construed as personal
- trying to arrive atthe exact minute my apointment is due so that it doesnt come across that i am trying to extort any extra time
- wording everything very carefully
- never giving a gift or even asking if you can give a christmas card
- talking about anything that isnt directly involved in my situation e.g. perhaps a tv programme or something
so much i now have to watch like a hawk after being very badly treated by a mental health worker 2 years ago
