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Originally Posted by dizgirl2011
hey hun,
yep I totally struggle with this and my T said almost the same thing to me also!
I have realised that by crossing boundaries (even if you dont realise) or being dependant or attached that you get hurt so I am very conscious now of crossing boundaries in any sense whether that includes things such as :
-any contact outside sessions
-asking anything at all that may be construed as personal
- trying to arrive atthe exact minute my apointment is due so that it doesnt come across that i am trying to extort any extra time
- wording everything very carefully
- never giving a gift or even asking if you can give a christmas card
- talking about anything that isnt directly involved in my situation e.g. perhaps a tv programme or something
so much i now have to watch like a hawk after being very badly treated by a mental health worker 2 years ago
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Has your T given you this list of boundaries? I was blindsided because I didn't know about T boundaries going in. My T 'forgave' me for my transgression because I was new to therapy.
Now, since I've read a lot about the T/client relationship, I know a lot more about the boundaries. Unfortunately, my T hasn't expressly listed them so if I hadn't read up on it, I wouldn't know what I know now.