I think to start with, I would give her your list of things that are bothering you about her.
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) Most always 5 or sometimes 10 mins late.
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Does she extend your session by the time she is late? In otherwords, does she give you the full amount of time you are paying for even though she is late?....if so, then it much more of an annoyance & something you can talk to her about being a problem with you. I know that I am always running LATE. Can never get anywhere without being 5-10 minutes late (or more sometimes). But I have to admit, it's NOT a good habit to be in & try to make sure when it's critical that I am somewhere ON TIME.
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) Her cell phone is on a ringer that when someone calls it interrupts session .
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Definitely NOT right....you need to have that list in the beginning of the session & do maybe a check list.....#1 on the checklist....cell phone ringers.....OFF!!!!!
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) She acts in family sessions not sure what to do when im highly angry or emotional in family sessions , like she will make a face showing that to my mom during some sessions.
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Think I would talk to her about this in one of your private sessions to see what she is really trying to imply to your parents with the face she is making to them. You are entitles to understand what she is saying by her expressions.
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) A lot of the times she makes a lot of claims with my insurance company.
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Your insurance company or your parents? If it's your parents....they they are responsible for checking out the charges & making sure they are correct. Sometimes it can look like there are a lot of charges when they constantly have to resubmit claims because of problems getting them through the process & it looks like more claims than actually are occurring....but GOOD to check.
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) She does not wear professional clothes at times, kinda like a teenager fashion wanna be .
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If this is distracting to your therapy then you have a right to mention how you feel about it. Some people are oblivious to how things effect others unless they are told.
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) Does not really explain things as well treatment wise.
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If you are having a problem understanding what she is saying then it's a good idea to mention it to her that you are having a problem understanding her explanations & that you either need someone who is better at explaining.....Most people are capable of changing their communication skils & expressing ideas in a different way to better explain what they are trying to say.....however, if you don't find that working than this is really the first item that would be good cause to find another T who you can work better with.
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) Believe she is getting her husband who is a psychiatrist to reach out to me because she thinks i would benefit from meeds ,when i refuse to take them.
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Ok, my psychologist at first kept suggesting that I see a pdoc for possible medications.....but because of all the horrible side effects....NOT an option for me....however it's not an option "just because I don't want to take meds". Many times meds can be a very good thing & if you don't have horrible side effects, then it might be wise to try to find a med that will help you get through this rough time.....not sure how much your mental issues are genetic (inherited), verses situational. Sometimes when we finally work through the situational things that are bothering us, the meds will be no longer necessary.....where if it's something that is a condition inheridate, it's more of a permanent condition that could use meds throughout your life....only a good pdoc could tell on that. I honestly think she is just looking after your best interest when it comes to this point...I would say you are the one who knows your body best, but I'm not sure that satement is true either.
best thing is to work through the issues & communicate with her...you will find that this will really end up being practice for other situations that come up in your life as you get older & learning how to communicate & handle tough situations is just good training for the rest of your life.