Hey hun,

no my T didnt give me that list, thats just my own and even some of mine a too "over the top" but its because I fear crossing boundaries due to being hurt in the past.
There are definately boundaries for theraputic relationships but it can depend on the therapist as to how strict the boundaries are. If you are worried about it though definately ask your therapist to go through it with you. Some therapists do this during the first session and perhaps yours did

An example of boundaries often set at the start of counselling could be,
-our sessions are at 3pm each friday,
-You should be on time were possible,
-If you are late to a session we will still end at the time that you would normally end at
- if you fail to show up to a session without giving at least 24hours notice or without extenuating circumstances, then you will still be charged for the full session.

Those type of things are boundaries in counselling - kind of like rules as to how to work together. They arent meant to be there to scare the client ( although because of the past treatment i do fear them) but to mean that both parties can work respectfully and in a manner that is understoof by both.

Sometimes therapists dont really talk about boundaries too much until they feel the client has kind of overstepped it - which is a little unfair but they perhaps feel if they start warning their client about boundaries then it may scare them for example:

your T may say that you can contact in between sessions if you need to speak to her and if you do this is fine, esp if you are in need. However if you are ringing constantly in between sessions this may be seen as an issue that needs addressed as it sort if is crossing a boundary if the contact is too much.

hope that makes sense?

Dizgirl xxx