[quote=Crazydancinggirl87;1787309]It sounds like she actually answers the phone when it rings, is this right? >>>>>That is true and right .

She is completely out of order to be interupting your session and answering the phone you have every right to complain!


its like she bases it on what she thinks and feels and that she cant really apply her training as a therapist at times it seems.

As a therapist she shouldnt be making assumptions, its not part of her job and if she does make assumptions she should at least check to see if she is right by asking you if she has understoo correctly!

especially if her husband is not your psychiatrist?>>>>>>> He used to be my psychiatrist but i stopped seeing him as i refused to take med's , and i gave her permission to talk to him once on my behalf thinking just only when really needed or an emergency to do so , but it seems like she took it to mean to discuss how my progress in therapy is and trying to get him to convince me i need meds as she tried many times to convince me to try the meds again but i refused so its like she is pushing her agenda down my throat and it bugs me .

She really is breaking ethical codes here. As you said you gave permission once, that does not mean she can continuously talk about you to him. It is not or her to decide that you have to take meds, she can make a suggestion and tell you why but she should respect your wishes also - she cannot make her clients decisons for them.

I think you have hit the nail on the head by saying "she is pushing her own agenda!!" - totally unethical!


oh and sometimes she even if late takes another 5 0r ten mins to settle in and get ready for session or her appointment before me runs overtime , not sure she watches closely the time.

The thing is- it is her job to watch the time and to show respect to her clients by being on time and ending on time. If she cannot give extra time to you that day then she should make it up by giving an extra 10-15 minutes at the start or end of the following session. I am shocked that she thinks its ok to come late to sessions, take up time answering her phone, perhaps not even start your session for another 5-10 minutes after arriving late and then not to extend your time due to her own fault! I can understand she is busy but to waste your precious time of being in therapy she really needs to get her act together! I would feel very angry, upset, disrespected and belittled by her behaviour from what you describe.

I have 50 minute sessions with my therapist and sometimes that feels like I blink and its over..even when she often goes over time by 10 minutes or so! So I can only imagine how quick your time goes when your therapist is wasting it on you!

And my mom said >>>>>>>> she seems like the person who is great to talk to ,to talk through your problems but not as a helpful and knowing therapist .

So really a friend could do the same job as shes doing for you both at the moment? lol - which isnt how it should be