Dancinggirl, it sounds like she is a problematic therapist on many points. While I would applaud you if you had the courage to face her and tell her each of the things that bother you about her, she doesn't sound like a T who is terribly likely to change.

I have seen a lot of T's in my life.. maybe ten? I am not sure how many since some were when I was a teen. None have ever acted like this. This is very unusual behavior from someone who is supposed to be trained to deal with emotional issues.

If I were you, I wouldn't bother confronting her. I would find a new T.