Your point is an important one, you don't know your therapist at all. You pay them. It's an unfair and totally weird set up. It's crazy. Insane from day one.

Yes, there is a human there across from you - a living breathing feeling human. However, I've come to understand that it's not so much about the other person in the room, and what you know and don't know about them, who they are etc....

But it's more about the interaction between the two of you that is important and healing.

I think it's the exchange, the words, the feelings in the room that is the therapy. The therapist can be a strong catalyst - a coach - a fellow traveler. They facilitate the interaction, and you respond to it.

You experience an attachment, perhaps for the first time, and that is real. You feel an attachment in their presence and that is also very very real. That presence.

For me, over time, my therapist has become less and less important as a person, because the person that is me is emerging.