Not really - but I like the boundaries in the relationship with my T. I like that she IS my T and not my friend. It feels safer to me. I've said in other posts that there are times I wish I'd met my T as a friend, because we have a lot in common and would have made good friends. But, then she wouldn't be my T, and I need her in that role more! I have other friends that I have a lot in common with. Of course, one of my issues is that I tend to lose myself in relationships...I become what I think others expect me to be. So, the fact that I don't know much about my T and that there are those boundaries means that I feel less of a need to be someone I'm not and I'm not losing myself. I need that!

The client/T relationship is an odd relationship, though. I don't know if I'd necessarily call it fake, but it is definitely a different type of relationship than any other. It's a very unequal relationship, which does feel uncomfortable sometimes. I think a good T does care about each of their clients, and I imagine that sometimes the relationship feels awkward to them as well.

I will miss my T when (if) I no longer need her, but I think it's more that I will miss the safety and acceptance I feel with her.