----- I still feel a little gap and loss of connection. It scares me because TRUST is one of my biggest issues and it took me so long for T to gain it and I'm a bit afraid it's going to take me a while to get it back. I was wondering that for anyone who has had a rupture or loss of connection of any sort, how do you work through it and how long does it take to feel "normal" again?-----

First, I am so glad you could talk to T and get such a good, honest response!
For me, it's been, what, 2 1/2 weeks since I had my huge rupture with t over the hugs and I'm still working on normal - it's a new normal, actually. I do still trust her, but the hurt was huge, is huge, it's hard to unconditionally trust right now.....the way to keep working through it is to keep talking through it. T knows that and is patient with me in talking about it, and she is honest. Honesty is so key in repairing damaged trust, so key. And grace, the more grace T has, you have toward T, the more that helps too.