Hi. I agree with crzyladee and Polly. Your brother is using you and playing on your feelings. He knows you feel guilty at the thought of making him leave and he knows how to push all your buttons. He will use you until you crash and burn and then he will find someone else to use. You may not think he will, but believe me, I've seen this scenario time and again. Your health is your first priority so you can have a healthy relationship with your husband, who is your second priority. You made vows with your husband--not your brother. Do what Polly suggested, let your husband take control and give your brother the ultimatum. Don't let your brother sap you dry and ruin your marriage--you will be left with nothing. And your therapist was/is totally unprofessional for taking advantage of your emotional state--he's just as bad. Keep your hubby--he's a gem for standing by you through all of this.