Suratji, I'm reading this book called "How to Live," that your post really reminded me of. It won the National Book Critics' Circle award this year and it is about the first modern person to write their autobiography. Montaigne was DEFINITELY a good candidate for therapy. He examines literally EVERYTHING about himself, his friendships, why the only fruit he likes he melon, why he likes checkers but not chess...

I mean in a way this book says that yes, it's self-centered to spend so much time on that, but in a very modern sense, asking these questions is how we define what ourself is. In the olden days, you might have been a blacksmith or a barrel maker for your whole life, and that was it. I really think as hard as life was back then, it was simpler in some ways. As modern people we only know ourselves by asking those kinds of questions, what are our tastes, what do we value, how do we handle relationships? There's so much more at stake in these questions because we have more power to choose.

We might be a narcissistic culture, but so many people are on facebook and blogs, not to define them selves.. but to see how OTHER people are doing that work. I think the more seriously you take it, the better you're doing for yourself... and the better example you set for others to look inward to themselves and see what actual values and feelings are there.

Yeah so that might be society's narcissistic answer... get therapy to help others.. but I happen to think it's true!