Wow so many people I want to reply to

Wepow- I can very much relate to what you are saying about how your feel a bit..well neglected I guess when your therapist spent time with his friend but didn't read your emails.I guess even though we know the logic of situations it sometimes doesnt mean we still arent affected emotionally.

I dont know what way your mother said that to you at age 14 but I wish my mother had decided to take that stance...if she did perhaps I wouldnt feel so motherless.

Treehouse, I think its great you can feel ok now without seeing your therapist and that the thought of being without him some day doesnt seem as daunting!

with or without you - I have never considered the thought of the afterlife.. I guess in my head the boundaries would be there too lol

Dani - Do you drive or could you get the bus to see your T next year?

suratji - I have tried to avoid the attachment but it seems impossible, even when I maintain strict boundaries. I do agree with you and seshat that I am glad my T is my T and not a friend because thats why they are special to us.

thanks for all the replies so far!