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Originally Posted by treehouse
Here is a perfect example of what I'm struggling with in my life right now.
I'm thinking "oh my gosh, I'm driving PC people crazy with my I'm-taking-a-break-and-i'm-okay posts. i should shut up and just be helpful where i can. i am so obnoxious". You are not driving me crazy and I don't think you need to shut up! I do not think you are obnoxious and I do appreciate you being so helpful to others on PC.
And I think "why don't people respond? is it because i'm annoying? is it because I'm bad at hitting the 'thank you' button on posts? is it because the things i say are pointless and stupid?" You don't say things that are pointless and stupid! You are not annoying. Hitting the thank you button (for me) has nothing to do with whether people respond or not.
I am not responding much to things lately except what I post. I got burned a few times and I am still getting over it. I worry that I will say the wrong thing and trigger someone. I have done that before without meaning to.
Sometimes I don't reply because others have already said what I 'would have' said. I feel that whatever I may have to add is pointless and rambling.
and the thing is...I don't know what's real and what's not. I guess the reality is some people may be thinking that and some people may not. But such is the spiral of my life right now. People have so many different opinions and views on what we post in here. They may think we need to SHUT UP and get over it. But there are others that don't! There are many that read our posts and never say a word. They never respond to anything. This is the reason I started the "lurkers" thread. I just wondered why they never felt to contribute their thoughts to posts in PC.
Ugh.
I SO know "issue number one" for when I go back. ack  |
I read everything you post. I am sorry that I don't respond much. I feel like I say stupid things when I respond to posts. I even think I say stupid things in my own threads! I cannot tell you how many times I have wanted to delete an entire thread because when I read back through it, I realize how stupid, abnoxious, annoying, aggressive, mean, etc... I sound.
My latest thread about the WORST session of my life......I want to delete that one. It makes me look HORRIBLE! It makes me sound so mean and aggressive. The only reason I haven't done that is because I was talked me out of it by some others on PC.
I can't tell you how many times I reply to a post and then go back and delete it because I think it sounds dumb. I over analyze things and worry myself sick that I may offend or trigger someone.
I will make more of an effort to reply to your threads. Now that you know why I don't, you won't think too bad of me if I say something ignorant. I am telling you right now, that I will say ignorant things and they may not make one bit of sense. Just know that my intentions were good.
