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Originally Posted by Perna
Other people cannot "make" us love them.
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Can they act in a way that is likely to make us love them? Yes.
How is it done? By giving us love. If someone gives you love and the next thing you know you also love them, that's a normal human response. It's not something that is consciously done. So the person who purposely gave love to the other person shares some responsibility for the love that the other person develops toward her/him.
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Our feelings are our own and are information to help us understand ourselves and the world around us. That you developed such an intense, personal attachment to your therapist; that is not the main "purpose" of therapy
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Absolutely. That's not what I went to therapy. But the therapists knew I have emotional problems, and she did nothing to prevent me from enduring this pain.
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and may be useful to you as a key to your emotional difficulties. I would find a male therapist and work with him on your intense connection you felt and hurt from her "rejection" of you.
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I did. The guy accused me of being paranoid for daring to blame the first therapist for what happened to me. I don't care if it means I am paranoid. As far as I know she is partly to blame for what happened to me. Her job was to help me, not quietly watch as I got hurt.