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Originally Posted by Protoform
As those of you have "fallen in love" with the therapist, transference is one of the most intense pains you have probably ever experienced in your life. It's one of those things that unless you feel it you probably wouldn't be able to imagine how painful it really is.
That said, is there any hope that one day the psychological associations and the powers that be create a set of behavioral guidelines that will mandate therapists to take appropriate steps in order to prevent vulnerable patients from falling into this trap?
Their attitude right now, as I understand it, is that it's not the therapist's fault that the patient fell in love with him/her and that since falling in love is not supposed to be a painful emotion, then no harm has been done to the patient. But those of us who have been in this position know how painful it really is.
Nowhere in the documents that I signed before I received therapy was I told that I was going to endure this type of pain.
Just wondering, if I file a lawsuit do I stand to gain anything other than getting laughed out of court?
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Hi,
You seem to be really struggling, as is evident from your other questions.
Transference isn't just about "falling in love" with your therapist, transference can apply to even negative feelings that you project onto your therapist that perhaps you have felt for someone else in your life...so its not just about the love or attachment.
I know how painful it is to feel attached to a therapist or carer of some sort and to loose them, I have went through it a few times and so have others on here...unfortunately it seems to happen most of us who have been in therapy for a long period of time.
Some people dont get attached to therapists, some people do - theres no way to predict who will or wont find it a painful feeling...some people thrive when they realise what is happening between them and the therapist is transference and use it to help heal their issues.
In a way it's like someone saying that everyone we meet in life we should have a contract with so that if we feel hurt by any of their actions...or lack of action that we can file a lawsuit against them....it doesn't sound very reasonable does it?
The fact is the transference comes from you, it's not that the therapist is putting you under a spell and making you "fall in love" with them...its just how your reacting to them. That doesnt mean that therapists cant help you talk through these feelings and try and make sense of them but T dont try to hurt their clients with it.
I do understand where you are coming from though..sometimes I feel mad at the system of therapy... of how we are lead to believe someone truely cares because of the way they are trained to react to us..and we get sucked into feeling attached when really its unfair as we usually have to give that person up. I guess thats the strangle reality of therapy.
I am sorry your hurting though but a lawsuit like this would not stand up in court, sorry.