Im sure my T wouldnt intentionally hurt me but the fact is he does. I know a lot of it is transference but that doesnt stop it hurting so much. A small thing my T does or doesnt say sends me spiralling and causes me an intolerable amount of pain at times. I have brought this up with him in the past and he said he was really sorry I had been in so much pain but that he does not wish to cause me to hurt. But things dont seem to have resolved so Im going to have to bring it up again when I see him this week.

I wonder if Ts know how we will react (?over react) to their behaviours or something they have said. Sometimes I think T does it on purpose but then that seems cruel to me and I dont think T is cruel. A lot of threads are started in relation to something a T did or didnt say or did or didnt do that causes pain. Do they realise how much they can hurt us? Is this just a part of therapy that we need to go through in order to heal?