I feel so bad for both of you! I was a very depressed teenager not that long ago, and I have carried the depression and other things into my adult life, which just seem to get worse everyday. The one thing that I noticed in hindsight that made me feel better was when someone would actually do something I liked to do, now that may sound crazy, but it really isn't. You can take him out to movies and dinners, whatever, but you cannot buy his love. This is the one thing that was attempted on me by my father. It didn't work. I see that your son likes to play video games, now I never was a gamer per say, but I did enjoy a few good Madden football games. Maybe you should un-announced come in and sit next to him and ask if you could play also. Now he probably will discount this as "yea right," but just keep insisting. The stimulation of teaching someone else how to play his game, will make him feel self worth & confidence. I've seen alot of crap i used to do as a teenager, all in hindsight though. All you can do is love him, support him emotionally (mother's best traits) and let him know, that he is truly loved. I know in my past "love" wasn't a word that we used in my family very much. Maybe before you go to bed, do something that you haven't done in a while,(not saying you haven't) Maybe just give him a quick kiss on the forehead and let him know how much you love him.(memories from childhood tend to jumpstart the thinking process, at least for me) From previous experience, he will be very standoffish to this initially, but don't let it get to you. The one thing that always helped me, and got me to talk, was my mother constantly reminding me that she loved me for who I was, I never got that from anybody else in the family. I understand 100% of what your beloved son is going through. It is not easy at all, and you just can't "perk up." Its a struggle, but from my experience these are the things that I know helped me in the past.