Wow! that is tough. I totally think she mishandled this. I had to work my way up to tell my therapist. I kept hinting around about transference by asking her questions. She never really gave a detailed answer. This made me mad!

I finally wrote her an email. I told her that I had been trying to talk with her about transference, but every time I brought it up, she acted like she didn't have any other clients ever go through that, so I dropped it. I did not want to look like a freak!

I confessed to her that I was having uncomfortable feelings for her. Man, was that hard to do even if it was in an email. I told her ALL about what I was going through.

She replied and calmed be down. Told me it was okay, but we were going to talk about it in our next session. (I had indicated in the email that I did not want to talk about it with her)

It was terrible to sit there with her and talk it. Had she not been so compassionate and understanding I would have been crushed. Just as you are. I cannot imagine the pain you are going through to have your therapist brush you off like that.

I totally see why you are to the point of wanting to file a lawsuit. Therapists have a responsibilty to their clients. Transference is a very common thing for clients to go through. Therapist SHOULD BE well trained in how to deal with this.