I totally understand your feelings. What makes me sad is the thought that therapy will end sometime. I am really attached to my therapist(went/still going through transference, all that stuff ). Now that I have gotten past the idea that I chose my feelings ( a awesome book for dealing with transference is In Session: The Bond Between Women and Their Therapists by Deborah Lott) I am very happy with the boundaries established. I have accepted what I feel, told my T, he did okay with it, still working on that but he has been open to talking about it. I am married, he is married, kind of weird situation but I realized that I have a much more emotional and intimate relationship with him than if he were my friend. I feel that yes, it is their job but they do care and as you get to know them better you can feel that caring if you allow it in. You can also get a sense of who they are..........personality wise. But you don't want to find out too much about their personal life because it can jeopardize your connection. They are their for YOU. And sometimes as women, it is hard to put the focus on ourselves. Hope that helps.